The Bachelor and Playboy... Whhhhatttt?

I am a closet "Bachelor" watcher. As in, the show. Not wealthy single men.

I am so intrigued by the people and the relationships on the show. It's pretty tacky, but man, it can pull you in! On this most recent season, one of the girls who seemed quiet and innocent made it to the final 4 for the hometown dates, and it was there that she revealed that she had posed for Playboy a few years before. Cue AWKWARD MOMENT. She was also sent home that same episode.

Now, I have a point to make here so hang in there... Of course Nice Guy Chris told her that it wasn't because of her past, but think about it... he lives in a TINY town where everyone knows everyone and their business, and soon they would all know her business too. Chris is a respected member of the community, and having a wild woman on his arm probably won't help. Granted, she said that is not her now and he most likely sent her home because he realized there was another side of her she had yet to reveal, and they were just about out of time. BUT, here comes the point....

The decisions that we make, big or small, old or young, can ultimately affect every part of our lives. Young ladies, are you listening? This quiet gal went on to say that these photos had ruined previous relationships for her too.

When you think about being sexy and being the girl that all the guys look at, just know it is unlikely that you will attract the good guy that is looking to settle down and put a ring on it. REAL men don't want their lady's goods all over the internet for anyone to see. They want them all to themselves! REAL men don't want to have to think "Who has seen her? Where has she been? What has she done that I don't know?"

Years ago when she posed for Playboy she probably felt flattered, excited, and wanted. She had no idea that years later she would have a few broken hearts to blame for it.

And yes, this post is really directed towards young women. Girls who are in their "prime" and looking for a good time. Girls who have dared themselves to "just say yes", to live it up in their 20s, and to live with no regrets. But in this age of social media, everything that is posted STAYS POSTED. Your quick decisions may cost you jobs, relationships, and definitely some confidence and self-worth.

If it helps, before you post something, think to yourself "Would it be okay if my boss saw this? Would it make my parents disappointed? Will I hurt someone's feelings? Would I be embarrassed if my future husband saw this?".

One day, you will not be as young and carefree. You will have responsibilities and relationships. Help out your future self and be careful about what you let others see. You only live once, so live a life you can be proud of.