Monday, March 3, 2014

What Kind of Mom Am I?

Have you read, or maybe taken, those little quizzes going around online asking you "What kind of Mom are you?" or "How crunchy are you" or "Are you a granola mom?". I always look at them and try to take them or figure out what category I belong in, and I never can! I'm all over the place! I used to think I was a 'granola' mom, and then I met a granola mom and realized that I am NOT one. So here's a little insight into what and who I am...

I planned a natural birth center birth, but ended up in the hospital with an epidural, pitocin, and barely avoided a c-section. 

I breastfed for as long as I possibly could, then switched her to donor milk, formula, and later cow's milk. 

I babywear as often as possible- though it is harder when the baby becomes an active toddler!

We don't cosleep.

I use essential oils and herbs every day. 

We practice Baby-Led Weaning instead of purees, but that may be a little because of laziness too...

We left the baby for the first time overnight at 3 months old. I didn't want to, but I believed in the importance of investing in my marriage first, and it was our anniversary!

She already has "chores". They are helping Daddy take out the trash, helping to feed the dogs, picking up toys after herself, and helping with Mommy's chores!

She is in a rear-facing car seat in my car, but I don't freak out if she is going with someone who only has a forward-facing seat.

I let her watch TV.

We didn't use cloth diapers, but I am not opposed to it with any future babies.

I'm convinced that Apple Cider Vinegar, Aloe Vera, and Coconut oil can cure/heal almost anything.

Sometimes we just have to eat crackers and kettle corn all day.

I just started making my own wipes and I am so in love with them!!! But the diaper bag still usually has store bought ones...
She has a pretty strict bedtime, because I am a big believer in sleep AND alone time with Daddy!

We built her a "Learning Tower" to be able to help with kitchen duties.

I believe in co-parenting with my husband and making decisions together, but I also support him to be the ultimate authority in our home. 

We have plastic toys.  

She's only had one vaccination, and if it was up to me she probably wouldn't have any more, because I didn't have any either!

She mainly drinks water, but she's had chocolate milk and apple juice (and one time Sprite for an upset tummy!), but she's really a water girl. 

We believe in discipline. Our job is not to make her comfortable or happy, it is to raise confident and respectful adults who will one day live and thrive in the REAL world. 

I can't remember the last time we bought her a toy. I have a laundry basket full of toys from her birthday and Christmas that we have no intention of giving her- at least not any time soon. They may find their way into the donation bin. She doesn't need more toys!

That being said, she does have a "toy" room, because the ones we let out have tried to take over the house!

She eats sugar, and sometimes lots of it. And then she's really funny. 

My favorite go-to medicines are Hylands tablets and Arnica cream (for the boo boos), but I'm not against some ibuprofen for fevers or tough teething nights (or a long flight! Anyone with me?).

She gets garlic oil and probiotics every night before bed.

So, what kind of Mom am I? What category do I fit into?

I usually stay on the side of natural, but over the last year and a half of parenting, I've discovered how very difficult each unique situation is when you are faced with it. Although I was always anti-epidural and anti-formula, I had to use them to keep us both alive and safe. I spent sleepless nights and long days regretting and beating myself up for some of the decisions that I had to make. I had a hard time forgiving myself the first time I gave her ibuprofen to calm the teething pain and help her sleep.

So after all of this, I have decided that I am just ME. I can't fit myself in a box that someone else has created, and I can't compare myself to other moms and the decisions that they have made for their babies. I am not a "good mom" or a "bad mom", I am just Piper's mom. and God has chosen ME, little ole' me, to parent her, raise her, and lead her on the correct path.

Ahhhh, how relieving that feels! I don't know what our future holds or what new decisions I will make today or tomorrow. I do not know if the next way will be "natural" or not. But I know that I have been given the knowledge and tools to discern and use my best judgement for what would benefit my child the most. And sometimes, what just may be the most fun :).

Don't compare yourself to other moms or try to be something that you are not. It is exhausting and more stress than you should take on as a busy mother! Just be YOU, and then you're baby will fit right in.